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Yesterday a friend called bringing with her a bunch of tulips. I’m so fortunate that my house is full of beautiful flowers. The hyacinths can be smelt from every room. Delicious.

We spent a very happy couple of hours reminising about all things. Work, children,  husbands, money and houses.

She was unfortunate to find out that her husband was seeing someone much younger,and that she felt was a step too far.

We both couldn’t understand  why we are never satisfied with what we had essentially chosen in the first place. All we both wanted it turned out was a “companion” someone who you could go to the cinema with, have a coffee, not someone who was younger than us, and who would be happy to return to his /her pad and leave you in peace.

Being of a certain age I couldn’t keep up with a younger man. I rather like having a doze in the afternoon. Not sure if a younger man would appreciate having a nap. My looks of course would definitely go against me, couldn’t compete wth the lovely young things

Surely we felt, there must be millions out there who would love a “good companion”.

We can’t all want the same things surely, but I do admit that when I see a handsome man I say to myself “if only I was young again”.

Enjoy yet another gorgeous day. I’ll be sitting out in the garden later, trying to ignore the sounds of the traffic passing in front of the flats.

Morning.  Yes you may be surprised to learn I’ve got legs and arms, and I’m seriously thinking of exposing them today.

At present I’m sat eating my toast and watching the news, and it’s obvious it’s going to be warm. Thank goodness my summer clothes are hanging up in the wardrobe ready to go. I bought a new set of summer clothes last year and didn’t wear quite a few as the weather was a little unpredictable.

The downside of course is I haven’t got round to exfoliating my legs yet. The upside is the dresses are midi length so much of my legs are hidden. I was considering buying a No No. (An epilator) but haven’t as yet. Does anyone have any recommendations.

Yesterday was a wasted day. My heater in the hall which wouldn’t work when it was freezing cold is now blasting out heat. I’ve been in touch with the electrician,  and I’m hoping he will call today.

A friend tried to visit yesterday. I say tried because yet again the entry system has stopped working. The poor lady didn’t realise that anyone who wants to visit should text or ring, so that they can be admitted into the inner sanctum.

The upshot of course is that I could have enjoyed a chat with a friend,  instead of being on my own, with Trudy of course.

She is going to attempt a visit today. Just hope she remembers to text me.

Enjoy this beautiful day.

The last few days I have been feeling “blue” or another way of putting it depressed.

My days seem to merge one into the other with nothing to separate them, or make them special.

I get up, slope around, and then later of course, go back to bed and that’s it. I feel sure it’s because I don’t get out and about so much. Still anxious about walking on my own,  and what’s the point. Okay could go to the garden centre, but no interaction with anyone makes the visit boring. Who can we talk to about all the plants?. What colour to choose and where they would go in the garden. The answer no one.

Perhaps they could make a member of staff available to meet and greet loners.  How nice that would be.

I do need to get out, chat to someone. They’ll probably think I’m a crazy old lady.  I used to think the same,when feeling alone was not an option, because I had a fulfilling and busy life.

I did have several visits from family and friends over the weekend with more birthday presents. My grandaughter bought me a bug house, already in the garden, and a smelly candle

Today I’m off to the cafe so that will lift my spirits,and then I will trundle round the supermarket.

My friend arrived on Thursday for our catch up. We last met eight years

A knock on the door and I went to open it. As I was not expecting my visitor until later in the afternoon, I was not sure who was outside. We all have door chains,  but I admit to not using mine. Grapped the dog and opened up. I stood their looking blank  before I realised that my expected guest had arrived. I hadn’t recognised her. I thought she looked old, quite forgetting she was probably thinking the same about me.

She handed me a pot of hyacinths and some primroses and bluebells from her garden and some chocolate. I ate a couple of squares of chocolate,  but I suffered with atrial fibrillation all night. Chocolate can sometimes do this to me, and I admit to being piggy over the last week, because I can’t resist eating it if given to me.

Ushered her inside, coat off and cup of tea made, but in her case it was coffee. She and her husband had just had a hearing test. At the moment I can hear well I’m glad to say, but they both needed some help.

Settled back in my chair to hear her news. The one thing that stayed in my mind and will for a long time is that her daughter’s are estranged. When I last met the family the two girls were close.  They had been from the time they were small children. It was obvious that this situation caused the parents quite a lot of heartache. There have been many attempts at reconciliation but to no avail.

I hadn’t thought of the logistics of being on good terms with each daughter, when the sisters themselves were not friends. It was the girls themselves who couldn’t reconcile.

Christmas and birthdays are hard, and of course mothers day. Each daughter sees her mum and dad at different times, never together. Just imagine how hard that is. If one daughter takes mum out and the other rings asking the same question “do you want to do something together” She has to say sorry I’ve made arrangements with your sister. We will do something together later.

Christmas they spend with friends mostly never together as a family.

My friend has written a letter to each girl asking for a reconciliation as she rightly puts in “there is more time behind us, than in the future now”.

When I was going  through something similar I wrote a letter too. It had no effect, and I was even told it could do more harm than good.

I’m so wishing that this is sorted out. They were great together,  let’s hope they can be again.